There’s
nothing wrong with having ambitions,
external
goals, or desires for material wealth.
But
they must be YOUR ambitions, goals and desires.
Understanding this is just the beginning
of breaking free of the matrix
and
discovering true self-empowerment.
Authenticity.
What does this word mean to you?
Is it
even something our modern culture puts any importance in? How can we
recognize authenticity and live an authentic life in a world where we
cannot even identify what is the truth and what is not?
The
truth is, we live in an age where we are getting more and more
disconnected from ourselves. Consider that virtually everything we
believe may be a lie. With the internet, social media and so many
technologies for communication, we are being bombarded with so much
information to the point of getting not only distracted but lost.
We are
told every day, in many objective and subjective ways, that we must
do more, achieve more in life and even be better than we are. The
marketing tools of our capitalist system make us believe that the
solution for our anxiety and unhappiness is to do more than we have
done, achieve more than we have achieved, be better than we are. It
makes sure to keep us loyal servants of the system, always working,
consuming and keeping the wheels moving. We buy everything, from
clothes to self-improvement workshops, looking for a kind of
fulfillment which can only be found when we stop pursuing it and
embrace the person we are and the life we have. But we are too
occupied pursuing things in the future.
It
results in being obsessed with the mythological models of success,
happiness, and perfection which are being sold to us by the media. It
seems abnormal these days to be a human who is susceptible to
failures, with feelings of insecurity and sadness deep inside. Parts
of our most basic nature have been transformed into a problem and we
are spending our whole lives trying to run away, to fix or to get rid
of the “problem”.
In the
face of it, we are experiencing a big crisis of identity. While we
became so obsessed about being different than we are, we have lost
the connection with our deepest nature. When our authentic core is
not fed, we start losing the energy, the spark of our eyes, drying
slowly till we reach depression.
But
blaming the “System” is not a solution, right? This is the world
where we live. It has its challenges but also brings opportunities.
In
fact, information has never been so available! While our ancestors
had no option but buying the model of reality imposed by their
societies, we have every sort of knowledge, ideas, and perspectives
at our disposal. It means at once a challenge and an opportunity.
Here's
the challenge: With so much information available, it’s easy to
manipulate the facts and find a way to corroborate whatever you
believe. It’s a dangerous phenomenon! If we look with attention,
we’ll find many different groups, many ideologies, displaying the
same information in different ways, to manipulate us for different
purposes and agendas. We are in the middle of an information world
war!
You
can see people being manipulated by all kinds of fake news, believing
the most absurd lies. It’s easy to identify this phenomenon outside
of our own bubble. Although, they are probably looking at you with
the same perplexed eyes! Take a look at the election we just lived
through. Is it really possible to know who is right and who is wrong?
Actually, no! Because everything we know about reality is no more
than a fragile construction made from fragments of life, interpreted
according to our personal and collective perspectives. Your reality
is just a construct, a very limited and fragile interpretation of the
infinite.
But
therein lies an opportunity: While everything changes so fast, we
cannot trust anything for truth anymore. It makes us realize how
relative and fragile our concepts of reality are, how easy it is to
configure a certain kind of reality and then sell that — and how
easily we buy it.
Once
you are aware of what’s happening, you can use it to your
advantage. Since the fraud of our reality is more exposed than ever,
it’s easier to challenge it! This moment opens an opportunity. It
opens a gap for us to start really exploring ourselves.
Every
time you find someone hypnotized inside of a personal bubble,
remember that you are in the same situation! There is a huge
difference between our concepts and reality. You have concepts about
yourself and about life. Although the real nature of life and the
true extension of your being cannot be conceptualized.
When
you stop trying to understand life, you start living it. When you
move beyond your concepts and stop trying to define or catalog
yourself, you find your true being.
You
don’t need to look for authenticity. It’s already in you.
What
is authenticity? In truth, it’s one of those things that we
shouldn’t try to define. We lose the grasp with our authentic core
once we start trying to define ourselves. Like life itself, we are in
constant movement and transformation. Our dynamic nature cannot be
put into words. We are a mystery which cannot be explained. The
definition, the explanation, the image we have of ourselves is what
hypnotizes us and disconnects us from our authentic core.
If you
really want to find authenticity, you need to go outside of your
thoughts. You need to go outside of that little box, that small and
limiting hologram of yourself which you have created. You must feel
yourself and taste your soul.
You
are not only thoughts. You are emotions. You are instinct. You are a
body. Thinking about your emotions, instinct and body only
disconnects you from such an essential dimension of your being. Feel
your emotions without resistance, trust your instinct and value your
body. Then you can ground yourself in your basic nature and flow with
the life which exists within yourself.
We are
much more than our mind. Our mind is an essential component of our
being. Our thinking abilities have led us to great accomplishments.
Yet we are much more than our minds. The voice in our minds is a mix
of our own ideas and all the information we have been absorbing since
the day we were born. But there is a silent intelligence in our
bodies, which is the purest source of our being.
This
intelligence inside of you coordinates your body, emotions, and
psyche. Imagine that every minute in your body, around 300 million
cells die while millions of new ones are born. In a single day, this
number peaks at around 432 trillion cells dying and being born inside
of you. These same cells create tissues, organs, body fluids and
every element of your organized, synchronized and effective body. Per
second, your body processes around 37 thousand billion chemical
reactions. And it’s not only your own cells that are doing the work
of keeping you alive. There are more than 40 trillion bacteria
participating in the miracle. Can you organize and command any of
this with your thinking mind? There is a much more powerful, profound
and wise systemic intelligence coordinating your vital processes.
While
you are distracted, expending so much energy trying to understand the
world and yourself through your mind, life is happening inside of
you, and you are missing it. And the more you disconnect from the
primal intelligence of life which resides in your body, the more
unhappy, empty and lost you feel. Unfortunately, we don’t even know
how to listen, how to get in tune with this instinctive intelligence.
There
is a huge difference between consciousness and reason. In case you
want to experience your most authentic self, you must detach a little
bit from your mind and its constructions to let your consciousness
explore different dimensions of yourself.
So how
do you get there?
1.
Detach from everything you’ve learned about yourself.
We
have been programmed since the beginning of our lives.
First,
you were given a name, which became a first definition and limitation
for your infinite self. Then you were identified as a boy or a girl,
and with your gender, you inherited many different concepts about how
you are supposed to be and behave. Then you were educated by your
family, school, religion, and society, inheriting countless concepts
and assumptions about life and about yourself. Most of these elements
have nothing to do with your real self. They are only social
constructions.
Our
visions about ourselves are completely shaped by so many elements.
And everything we have learned about ourselves can get close to what
we are — but will never be more than a sketch of our truest self.
Ultimately,
every definition we can create about ourselves will not be real and
won’t be solid. It will just be a definition. Because we cannot be
conceptualized. We are so much more than we can understand. When you
give up trying to understand, trying to make sense of yourself, you
take the first step to finding authenticity. Because then you can
relax, feel yourself and let your nature be.
2. We
can find authenticity in action, in the dynamism of life.
How
many times have you caught yourself in the mirror, or staring
somewhere, thinking about yourself, about your life?
The
fact is, we spend so much energy doing that — thinking about
ourselves too much. “Oh, I’m doing this, I’m going this way in
life, I must be this way. This is how I should behave.”
Instead
of trying to be in a certain way, just respect yourself and unleash
your nature. Let yourself be and act from a more spontaneous place.
The most authentic expression of yourself is maybe not so perfect as
would like to be, but this the real you who must be honored and
respected.
3.
Authenticity is the natural expression of your being.
Here’s
the truth: authenticity is not something we must go anywhere for.
It’s not something we must do in order to find. You just have to
stop doing things so much. Stop being so artificial. Drop your
concepts and expectations about yourself. You don’t need to be
anything else than you already are.
Just
listen to what your body, your emotions, your instincts are telling
you. Not that they will have a voice to tell you directly, but it
will give you the urge and the energy that will push you into action.
4. To
find your true self you cannot exclude any part of your being.
This
is where a lot of people struggle. If you really want to live an
authentic life, you must equally come from an authentic place of
being. What have you been fighting within yourself? Which aspects of
yourself you accept and which you don’t?
Let’s
start with your emotions. What do you think of your fear, sorrow,
anger, and anxiety? Do you think they are natural aspects of your
being, or do you treat them as diseases that you must heal? There is
no way to live an authentic life unless you remain impartial and
respect the full spectrum of your emotions. Don’t judge them as
positive and negative. Some emotions are pleasurable while some are
painful, but they are all are sacred and must be respected.
While
you fight your emotions, you fragment yourself and create violence
within. We have been programmed this way. We’ve been told that some
of our most natural emotions are negative, forbidden and must be
treated, fixed or defeated. But what you end up doing is fragmenting
yourself and polluting an important part of your nature with your
judgments and your violence.
Authenticity,
after all, comes with the wholeness of your being and the acceptance
of it all.
5. Pay
attention to how you behave in your Instagram
Instagram
is the perfect portrait of our bizarre tendency to fake ourselves.
Everybody is happy there, posting the most beautiful shots of their
lives. Why are we so desperate for admiration? Why do we need to look
so cool and to pretend we have such an amazing life?
The
fact is that we’ve been doing it much before Instagram came along.
Some smart guys just identified one of our weak spots and developed
an app to make money from it. But we compulsively try to hide our
insecurity, our sadness and our failures from the world and show a
very fake version ourselves and our lives. We get to the point of
trying to play this hypocritical game even with ourselves! We want to
believe that we are absolutely pure and good in our core, while the
heavier aspects of our nature are just an accident, only shadows
which we are going to transcend at some point. But we are all only
human beings, naturally messed in our cores, vulnerable and subjected
to failures.
Our
world is full of fake perfection and happiness, but craving for
authenticity. Maybe you don’t need to participate in this game
anymore. You can start with yourself. Assume the commitment of making
peace with your true self the way you are. Learn to admire the whole
picture of your being and the beauty of its contrasts. Then you can
take a second step and stop spending your energy trying to look
confident and brilliant. Your true self, even being contradictory,
insecure and vulnerable, has much more substance than the character
you play.
6. You
must be brave enough to open doors.
Authenticity
requires you to be brave enough to open the door, face all the
forbidden and forgotten aspects of yourself and embrace it.
We
have been programmed to believe that if we stop controlling ourselves
and surrender to our emotions and instincts, something terrible
happens. We are made to believe that our instincts are animalistic,
barbaric, that it will make us mess it up and destroy our futures.
But
actually, this is far from the truth. Our instinct is a really
intelligent power. It’s the thing that pushes you to do what feels
right, even when other options are easier or may yield better
results. It is the one thing that is always on your side.
The
only cause for our imbalances is the bad relationship we have with
our emotions, body, and instinct because the part of us that we judge
and repress ends up turning against ourselves.
In
order to achieve our goals in life, we have to make sacrifices. Yet
we must choose very well what we are going to sacrifice. If we have
to sacrifice our own nature and everything that makes us so unique in
order to be successful, our success is already a defeat and, once
achieved, will be no more than a prison.
So, if
you want to live an authentic life, be brave enough to embrace and
protect your true being, and be ready to pay the price for it. You’ll
be tempted on a daily basis to take the easy path and play the role
the world expects from you. It requires quite a temper to be
yourself, instead of a social walking dead.
There
is a feeling which is much more important than happiness, success, or
any other sense of achievement in life. It is the feeling of being
at home with yourself. The feeling that you are somewhere true to who
you are. It comes from from the depths of your guts and fills you
completely. That’s authenticity. It’s what drives us to live
our lives the way we want to live it. Not in the way our society or
someone else has planned for us. But on our own terms and according
to our own rules.
Adapted
from an article by Rudá Iandé at Ideapod.com